Saturday, January 21, 2006

This day, 5 years ago.... father came in my nicely decorated room and asked me if I was really sure that I want this J guy to be my husband. I just grinned "So, what are all this about...I mean the kenduri, bilik pengantin, the red inai on my fingers etc?". Off he went to the mosque, where my nervous fiance, imam and a few others waiting, and a marriage was solemnised.

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No, is not going to be a mushy material from mama23beas. What I really wanted to write was how after 'knowing' each other for a long time, things between us only clicked much later.

Before I was 'introduced' again to him by a mutual friend, to me he was just a familiar face. I wouldn't be the first one to say hi if we bump into each other.

We found out later that:

1. Some 14 years ago, we were in the same class. He said he knew where I used to sit. But as for me, I didn't know it, rarely put my eyes at the back of the lab where a bunch of smelly, noisy boys had concurred.

2. He scoured through old photographs and found one that showed a group of students doing a geological fieldtrip, I laughed when I saw I actually was sitting quite close behind him. But we never spoke to each other.

3. Maybe 2 years after that, I remember that once I saw him sitting at a bench at the faculty's foyer, smartly dressed. He was alone and smiled at me. I smiled back. That was all. No spark, nothing!

Later he said he just came back from some interview and waiting for a friend to fetch him....totally broke, didn't even own a kapcai...hehe.

4. 2-3 years after that, we were at a friend's wedding. While I was joking to my friends that I was desperate and asked them to find me a boyfriend, he was sitting at the end of the long table. I didn't notice him and we could have been in a same photo again as he joined the photo taking session. But I never had a chance to ask my friend about it.

5. About 7 years ago, I was waiting for my car service at Glenmarie when I saw him walked to the counter. My thought was "Think I know this guy". He looked tired but was surprised to see me. He said hi, we chatted a bit. I was happy that at least I had company. But he just didn't seem to be interested to talk, and soon dozed off in a chair. I felt a bit annoyed and asked myself "Am I that ugly?" while staring at him.
Little did I know that one day I would feel annoyed seeing the same guy snoring in the labour room while I was having contraction to give birth to our 3rd baby.

He explained later, he has been working hard and almost pengsan!

A few months later, a friend who thought his two single friends were just so pathetic and planned to play cupid. He didn't have to work any harder.
I was without my car, but just could not miss a concert. Trying to get a transport (and an escort was a bonus!) I asked my 'new friend' if he was interested on Deep Purple concert. He was. And things started to tick.

We talked after the concert, a long almost non-stop 26 hours talk. Two hours before saying goodbye, he jokingly said he would 'masuk meminang' if I liked the idea. I took it seriously (no, no...I was not desperate, he really is a great guy!).
I made him some tuna sandwiches and fruit salad and he bought me a ring.

We were acting only in the photo, I've been wearing the ring since I got it from the jewellery shop. Don't have to twitch your eyes to look at the stone. It is small, as that time didn't know how to demand yet. My husband is a lucky man.
I thought before embarking on a serious relationship, I must take my time to get to know the man. That was a common advice that I received, and also that I'm telling other people. But my case is exceptional;).

I read Simon's Searching for your soulmate again. Think I found mine without even searching, and at the time that I was not prepared. I was pursuing a Masters degree with a plan to continue with a Phd, a serious relationship was the last thing in my mind.

But 5 years, 3 kids and a completed PhD;).... I keep on counting my blessings.
Better get out of here before getting too sentimental!

By the way, I hate to have the red 'inai' on my nails but I was forced to do it *sigh*


Blogger FRIDAY'S CHILD said...

That was a strange meeting. Wish you all the luck and happiness.

10:20 PM  
Anonymous pinkcherry said...

what a nice sure u r very-very lucky women...good luck!

9:51 AM  
Blogger Buaya69 said...

wahceh dr mama, looks like papa22beas not so buaya hor. wat a nice guy. ;)

11:32 AM  
Blogger domesticgoddess said...

happy anniversary!

2:34 PM  
Blogger geetha said...

Hmmm, its destiny that made you guys keep bumping into each other, until u both realised that you were made for each other!

Happy Anniversary to the both of you.

11:33 AM  
Blogger Mama22Beas said...

Thanks friday's child!

Thanks for visiting my blog pinkcherry. Looking at the way I 'found' him, yes I think I'm pretty lucky! any other 'normal' guy, he also shows a little 'buaya-ism' sometimes which so far is tolerable! After all not all buayas are bad, Buaya69 for example...hehe!

Thanks DG...btw, I've put 'snacks' on my meme lah...look carefully, very short one!

geetha...yes it was the way it meant to be. A lot of our friends thought we were secretly seeing each other for a long time before announcing our engagement. Told hubby, like that we'd probably reached our 5-kids quota by now;).

12:02 PM  
Blogger Lrong said...

So thrilling one ah, your story... and quite romantic may I say... I was also a huge fan of Deep Purple...

4:49 PM  
Anonymous a&a'smom said...

Happy 5th Anniv & MANY MANY MORE TO COME!
Yep u were both fated to be together. This Sept will be our 13 th anniv. Time sure flies.

5:06 PM  
Blogger Mama22Beas said...

lrong..."smoke on the water, fire in the sky"...yeah. Actually I'd asked two guys to go with me but both said, that was for 'orang tua' only haha...nevermind, I had the best time of my life with my man, then.
Thanks for saying our story is romantic!

a&a's mom...thanks. When we first know each other it was your 10th anni. Yeah, time sure flies!

5:21 PM  
Blogger Queen Of The House said...

Nice and romantic story, without all the mush. Aaaah, I like .....

12:49 PM  
Anonymous simon said...

wah, so romantis one... happy anniversary! :)

12:29 PM  
Blogger Mama22Beas said...

Thanks Queen and Simon...nice to hear you think it is romantic;)

5:29 PM  

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